It’s Hard to Be Happy..?
I’ve been listening to an audio book. And while I appreciate and agree with most of what the author says, I did a triple-take when he said that it’s very hard to be happy because there are a lot of things you must do to feel happy.
I disagree wholeheartedly with that stance.
One of the things I’ve learned on my path, which has been very rocky at times, is that happiness is a choice. And to me, it’s an easy choice.
Yes, Happiness is Easy!
It’s as simple as this: Find joy in the way your life is right now. That means think of the things that are how you want them to be. Think of the things you’re grateful for. Think of the beauty of each moment as it happens. Live in the present instead of anchored to the past or searching for the future.
The only time you’ll truly feel unhappy is when you’re focusing on things that aren’t how you want them to be.
- If you were abandoned by a parent and you spend a lot of time thinking about how unfair that is, then you’ll feel unhappy.
- If you’re single and you constantly think of how you wish someone was in your life, you’ll feel unhappy.
- If you’re out of work and you keep thinking about how horrible that is, then you’ll feel unhappy.
- If you were injured or have a disability and think about all the things you could do if your body worked perfectly, then you’ll feel unhappy.
Those are just a few examples of things you could choose to feel unhappy about. But the important thing to understand is that while feeling sad is natural at times, wallowing in sadness isn’t. Wallowing in sadness is like complaining that a cactus is hurting you while squeezing it harder and harder…
So if you’re feeling sad, thank the feeling for the message it’s giving you because it’s an action signal—a signal that you must take action! Then ask yourself what you can do to either change the situation or how you feel about the situation.
- Meditate and send thanks to the parent who abandoned you—for giving you life.
- Join clubs, organizations, or participate in activities where you might meet someone with similar interests and hobbies.
- Print up a resume, dress nicely, and hand deliver your resume to 5 to 10 different business a day. Then check back in with the ones who seem interested about once a week. You’ll land a job in no time. (I’ve done this in the past and it not only works, it gives a great first impression to employers.)
- Think of all the things you can do. If possible, find ways of exercising that increase your flexibility and mobility. Feel gratitude for the fact that you have a fully functioning mind.
- Make a gratitude list. This is one of my personal favorites! Just take a minute and write down at least 10 things you’re grateful for. It does wonders to shift your mood.
- You can even go sit in nature and bask in its beauty for a while. Or sit under the stars and feel awestruck at the fact that your body is made of the same elements as those distant lights twinkling in the heavens.
No matter what your situation there is always something you can do to shift your focus from what you lack to what you have. That means there’s always some action you can take to help you focus on happiness.
That’s right, You Can Always Choose Happiness!
You are The Master of Your Destiny!
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