A simple question; that’s equally powerful and destructive depending on its context.
It’s easy to think of the past and wonder…
What if I’d done this?
What if I’d done that?
How would things be different today?
The truth is you’ll never know what might have been. Doors from the past, divergent paths are closed. Besides, wondering how your life would be today—if you’d acted differently in the past—is a good way to drive yourself mad.
But more importantly, habitually wondering “What if?” breeds depression. It kills motivation. It’s like trying to run a 100 meter sprint through quicksand. When you’re stuck in, “What if?” you’re living in the past—punishing yourself for it.
What’s that accomplish?
Everyone can look back and find things they could do differently.
When you’re looking back you’ve got the knowledge of now with you. If reviewing a past situation reveals nothing you could have done differently, chances are you either handled it well or you haven’t learned how to deal with that situation—the solution is outside your understanding.
When you look at things that spark, “What if?”, do it with the intent to learn. Resist the temptation to blame or punish yourself. Instead, take knowledge your new perspective gives you and use it to become a better person.
What about the powerful side of, “What if?”
Take the question and spin it on its head! Instead of asking, “what if I’d done..?” ask, “what if I do?”. Apply it to the future. And open yourself to wondrous possibilities!
What if I write that book?
What if I take that trip?
What if I apply for that job?
What if I climb that mountain?
What if I succeed?
Use “What if?” to ignite your imagination’s fire. Use it to discover your passion. Use it to paint a brilliant future!
The choice is yours. You can punish yourself for the past or you become the hero of your future.
You Are The Master of Your Destiny!
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