With the start of a new year I’ve been thinking about how important it is to live in the now.
But what does that mean anyway and how do you do it?
To me, living in the now means living fully engaged in every moment and enjoying the process as much as possible. It means understanding the past is over and the future, though important, only really matters when you love the process of creating it.
It’s easy to get so caught up in what you’re trying to accomplish that you forget to enjoy the process. Life isn’t the future, nor is life the past. Life is this moment.
Now! And Now! And Now! This is life!
If you aren’t enjoying the process of living then you aren’t truly living.
Yes, all the moments strung together create your experience but it’s how you interpret those moments that create the meaning you give life, that create your reality, and that determine whether you’re enjoying the process of living or not.
That’s a hard one for many to accept. After all, who likes to realize that their sadness, happiness, satisfaction, dissatisfaction, turmoil, or peace are solely the result of how they interpret their life, especially if their life isn’t how they wish it was in one—or more—of those areas?
But it’s true.
And once we accept that truth, we’re in the position to consciously choose the meaning of our lives, we’re in the position to live fully engaged and enjoy each moment.
But what about the events that hurt emotionally, physically, psychologically, or spiritually?
While those moments aren’t enjoyable in the classical sense, they are a necessary part of your path. You can appreciate the lessons or seeds of growth that each of those moments contains. It’s up to you to find the seeds of growth and plant them. Use them to help you become a better person. Use the knowledge and experience in those moments to help others. Give meaning that empowers you to those moments.
The meaning you give events in your life also impact your physical health.
In an interview with Anthony Robbins, Deepak Chopra discusses how two people can experience the same event and each give it different, even polar-opposite meanings. The meaning they choose to give the event determines how it impacts their physiology because nothing happens in the mind without also happening in the body. Depending on the meaning they give an event, they are either building up or tearing down their immune system. In short, your health is largely dependent on the meaning you give the events in your life.
Deepak Chopra goes on to say, “The meaning that you give to an event is the event because there is no such thing as actual reality. There is only the perception of realty.”
The meaning you give the events in your life become your physiology because each meaning produces chemical reactions. When you choose joy or gratitude or excitement as the meaning you give an event, your body produces a whole different set of chemicals than it does when you choose anger or ungratefulness or frustration.
But how do you learn to change the meaning of events?
The best thing I’ve discovered for changing the meaning of events in my life is to ask better questions about the events.
Instead of asking, “Why does this always happen to me?”
Try asking questions like; “What lesson is in this?” Or “How can I handle this better next time?” Or “How can I use this to help others?”
You can also ask, “What good can come of this?”
I encourage you to Live in the Now, Engage in Your Life, Accept Accountability for your Emotions, and Create Meanings that allow you to best Serve Others With Your Life!
You Are The Master of Your Destiny!
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