Please enjoy this excerpt, ‘How Do I Know What to Change?’ from my book, Break Your Mold: The Art of Overcoming Patterns and Behaviors That Hold You Back.
How do I know What to Change?
Does that question keep you up nights? You’re unhappy, unsatisfied, or downright miserable with something about your life. You know something’s got to change, but you don’t know what…
You might think the answer to “What should I change?” would be easy. If you’re overweight or out of shape you can see what must change. If you’re financially broke you “know” you need more money. Physical problems are tangible, measurable.
But What About the Root Cause of the Problems?
Physical problems are often symptoms of something else. If it was as simple as saying, “I’d better get in shape.” Or, “I’d better make more money” than more people would easily overcome their problems.
That’s bad enough. But what if you don’t know what has to change. You just know something is missing. Maybe you desperately want a better life but don’t know how to find it.
You might wonder how to change your life. Or you’ve made changes but don’t know how to make them last. You might even know exactly what’s got to change but deep down, you’re afraid you’ll fail, you’re afraid of what you must face, or the pain of changing… You might even be afraid you’ll succeed because even though you think you want something better, you’re comfortable with your life.
So you never try.
Change can be scary and overwhelming. It’s like looking at a 1000 piece puzzle scattered on the floor. From a distance all the pieces seem identical. It’s easy to look at the mess of pieces and think, “I’ll never figure this out!”
Many people turn away at that point because trying to figure things out seems impossible. But the truth is this, Impossible is almost always in your mind. Some people look at the mess and think, Wow… this really sucks! I’d better get started. But then they take action.
They find the border pieces and fit them together. When that’s done they start building from there. They might not know what they’re doing or how to get where they want to go, but they keep at it. Instead of thinking of the puzzle as an impossible mess, they focus on finding the next piece. Soon the missing pieces fall into place and the puzzle takes shape.
Before they know it, they’ve finished! But the person who said, “I’ll never figure this out.” is still staring at the pile thinking it’s impossible…
The main difference between those who overcome life challenges and those who don’t is the ability to take action despite fear. When you don’t know the solution to something, it’s easy to feel fear or overwhelm. Fear stops many people from trying. They don’t know what to do…so they put it off or worse, they give up.
There’s One Thing About Giving Up. It Guarantees You’ll Never Succeed.
Makes sense right? How can you succeed if you quit?
Those who work the puzzle anyway recreate themselves and change their lives.
They persevere and take action. That’s why.
Remember this; Imperfect Action always Beats Perfect Inaction. When you fail to start because you fear failure you ensure you won’t succeed.
But we’ll come back to that later.
As you realize, you must do something to get results. But first you must know the results you want. What direction should you point yourself? After all, does walking south help when your destination is north?
So figure out where you’re headed and remember to aim high! If you aim low you might hit it, but will that really create the life you want?
Once you know where you’re going you’ll identify things that interfere with your journey. Those are things you must change.
How do you do that? I’m glad you asked.
Let’s start with a simple exercise. For the next two minutes, think about your perfect life. Imagine your life if nothing held you back, if all your dreams came true.
Good. Now answer the following questions: (Download the My Perfect Life Worksheets from the link Below to Do the Exercises)
(If you truly want to change your life, It’s important that you do all of the activities in this book. The print version of Break Your Mold has places for you to write directly in the book. Since this is the electronic version, that isn’t an option. Instead, you can use a journal, a notebook, the downloadable worksheets, or even get your own copy of the Break Your Mold Workbook.)
My Perfect Life Worksheet:
Break Your Mold Workbook:
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