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Love more

Jul 01 2017

You Can Love More

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We all can love moreYou Can Love More.

It’s easy to say, “You can love more”. But why does love matter? What does loving more really mean?

First, let me tell you about an experience I had a short time ago:

How can I help more people? How can I make a bigger difference, empower more people to change?

These questions tugged at the fringes of my mind, heavy with urgency while I hovered at the edge of darkness. I unknowingly drifted into sleep’s embrace. One moment I was aware, the next I was waking, digging my way toward consciousness like one buried in deep sand.

I opened my eyes a fraction. Moonlight reflected off clouds drifting past my window. Bright as white fire against the night, it stung my eyes. I wanted to close them and surrender to unconsciousness once more. But the clouds were surreal. They called to me and I couldn’t look away. They swirled, danced in the moonlight. A word formed in the spaces between them.

“You”

I blinked to clear my eyes, rubbed them, closed them tight and shook my head to dissipate the mental fog. Surely this was a trick of my weary orbs. I opened them again. It was still there. Brighter. More defined. As if an unseen hand had carved the word out of the shining clouds.

“You”

The clouds held form a beat, then churned and shifted. Wispy tendrils of vapor merging, overlapping, coalescing. Moments later a new word shone, etched in dark relief against the billowing sky.

“Can”

Okay. Now you’ve got my attention. I can what? I knew I was awake. This wasn’t a dream. I glanced at my wife’s sleeping form. Blissful peace upon her visage. I kissed her cheek then looked back to the clouds, eager to receive the rest of my message.

Sliding across one another the clouds mingled anew. When they came to rest the word “Love” shone upon me through the night.

“Love”

Then the clouds paused, as if making sure I understood. I smiled involuntarily. Wind howled, shook my house like a playful child. The clouds whirled, spun, merging and mixing and my word vanished in a wash of moonlight. I waited, watching carefully for more. But nothing came. The sky was done speaking.

I wondered, “You Can Love”. Of course I can love. I do love. I love my work. I love helping others. I love my family, my wife, my life. I love so many things. And then it hit me with the force of an emotional tsunami, the giant wave crashing across my mind. I Can Love More.

Be Patient Kind Forgiving Understanding Accountable Courageous Humble, Love More

I can love the people I’m helping more. I can love my work more. I can love my family, my wife, my children more. I never thought it was possible but now I know it is. I can love more. I can love enough to give my absolute best, my supreme effort every day. And the more I love, the more I open my heart, the more people I’ll reach, empowering them to change.

And That’s What It’s All About. Helping Others!

How does this apply to you?

We All Can Love More.

You can love those in your life more. You can love your family more, your co-workers more, your neighbors more. You can love yourself more. Love yourself and others enough to be the best version of yourself. Give people the benefit of the doubt. That means the person who cut you off in traffic too. Chances are they didn’t mean it. And even if they did, why not love them anyway?

So many people live in a blame based reality, constantly on the lookout for someone who’s at fault for the condition of their lives. They never look in the mirror. They fail to understand that regardless of what happens to them, they always have a choice what they do with it, what meaning they give it.

Blaming Others Isn’t Love.

Love others and yourself enough to accept full accountability for your choices. Love enough to make the changes you must and live the life you desire. By living the life you desire you’ll create positive ripples in our world. Love yourself and others enough to influence the world for good. Make a commitment now to be more loving, to make a difference!

I love you, I'm sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you

I’ll close with the Ho’oponopono mantra:

I love you

I’m sorry

Please forgive me

Thank you

 

Love

Roland

You Are The Master of Your Destiny!

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Written by Roland · Categorized: Personal Development, Transformational · Tagged: Forgiveness, Ho'oponopono, Love more, Make a difference, Personal Accountability

Aug 21 2011

Unconditional Love

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What is Unconditional Love?What is Unconditional Love?

To me unconditional love means loving a person no matter what they do. This doesn’t mean you must agree with or like the choices they make, nor does it mean you expose yourself to harm. It means you love them and are unwilling to let personal feelings—about their choices—interfere with your love.

In my childhood I learned conditional love. I’m sure my parents loved me despite choices I made. Or at least in my fantasy they did. But the displays of love I received were often related to what I did or didn’t do or to how I behaved. So I learned that love was withdrawn when I did something wrong.

As you can imagine this was the root of a many problems in my life.

I also acted that way myself without realizing it for most of my life. Meaning I withdrew emotionally when I felt unhappy or hurt. I didn’t consciously do this to remove love from others. It was to protect myself by creating walls of numbness around my heart. But the end result was a withdrawal of love. That’s counterproductive to say the least.

I’ve learned now that I must open myself to all emotions to be a whole person. This means opening myself to hurt and pain when I experience them as well as opening myself to love and joy. It is only by opening ourselves to all emotions that we fully experience life. Also, there is something in letting an emotion wash over you that prevents it from taking root. Emotions are temporary by nature. In fact, emotions are illusions we create to give meaning to the events in our lives. Or perhaps it is better said that emotions are the result of our present reality getting filtered through our history—which happens all the time.

I believe the only emotion that is truly tied to the now is Joy. When we get rid of all the other things we filter life through and live in the pure moment, we are in joy.

If you’ve found you’re drifting from love with someone close to you, try this exercise for a few weeks.

Each day, before you go to bed, take a piece of paper and write down ten things you love or appreciate about this person. Even if it’s something like, “I love that they have a good sense of style.” Write it down.

As you Do This you’ll find each day you discover more things about the person that you appreciate and love.

Everyone has good qualities. Everyone has things worth loving. Everyone is worth loving.

Love is a choice. Choose love.

 

You Are The Master of Your Destiny!

Roland Byrd

Copyright © 2011 Roland Byrd — All Rights Reserved

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Written by Roland · Categorized: Personal Development · Tagged: How to fall back in love, Love more, Realize your true potential, Unconditional Love

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