Roland Byrd

Mind & Body Fitness Coach

Personal Accountability

What Makes You Happy?

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What Really Makes One Happy?

I find that I no longer think in terms of does something make me happy or make me anything. My emotions are the response of the rules I unconsciously apply to every situation or event in life. I live very much in the now. I feel happy. I feel love. I feel peace. Sometimes I feel emotions that are less than desirable in the moment. And everything is as it is.

I love what I do. That’s my choice, feeling love for the privilege of supporting others. I do my best every day and I accept my best as my best while continually learning, growing, and improving.

Emotions are Driving Forces in Our Lives. Fighting Emotions Makes them More Powerful

Emotions are like waves, washing in and out of my life. Sometimes they are signals to take action, sometimes they are like the sun casting crimson rays over the ocean as it settles in for the night, and always they are beautiful.

Every day is amazing, pristine in its wealth of possibilities, perfect in its imperfections. And truthfully, the only thing that make a perceived imperfection is my desire for something to be different. When I desire something to be different, I take actions, pay attention to feedback, and keep adjusting course—while still loving each day for the gift it is. Even perceived imperfections are gifts guiding me on my path of personal evolution.

Change Your Perspective, Change Your Life

As I accept each day as it is—while always doing my best to be my best, to learn, to evolve, to serve others—I experience the beauty of now.

What makes you happy?

Roland

#Happy #Happiness #PersonalAccountability #Choice #Reality #Perspective #BeautyOfNow #Love #Peace

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You Can Love More

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We all can love moreYou Can Love More.

It’s easy to say, “You can love more”. But why does love matter? What does loving more really mean?

First, let me tell you about an experience I had a short time ago:

How can I help more people? How can I make a bigger difference, empower more people to change?

These questions tugged at the fringes of my mind, heavy with urgency while I hovered at the edge of darkness. I unknowingly drifted into sleep’s embrace. One moment I was aware, the next I was waking, digging my way toward consciousness like one buried in deep sand.

I opened my eyes a fraction. Moonlight reflected off clouds drifting past my window. Bright as white fire against the night, it stung my eyes. I wanted to close them and surrender to unconsciousness once more. But the clouds were surreal. They called to me and I couldn’t look away. They swirled, danced in the moonlight. A word formed in the spaces between them.

“You”

I blinked to clear my eyes, rubbed them, closed them tight and shook my head to dissipate the mental fog. Surely this was a trick of my weary orbs. I opened them again. It was still there. Brighter. More defined. As if an unseen hand had carved the word out of the shining clouds.

“You”

The clouds held form a beat, then churned and shifted. Wispy tendrils of vapor merging, overlapping, coalescing. Moments later a new word shone, etched in dark relief against the billowing sky.

“Can”

Okay. Now you’ve got my attention. I can what? I knew I was awake. This wasn’t a dream. I glanced at my wife’s sleeping form. Blissful peace upon her visage. I kissed her cheek then looked back to the clouds, eager to receive the rest of my message.

Sliding across one another the clouds mingled anew. When they came to rest the word “Love” shone upon me through the night.

“Love”

Then the clouds paused, as if making sure I understood. I smiled involuntarily. Wind howled, shook my house like a playful child. The clouds whirled, spun, merging and mixing and my word vanished in a wash of moonlight. I waited, watching carefully for more. But nothing came. The sky was done speaking.

I wondered, “You Can Love”. Of course I can love. I do love. I love my work. I love helping others. I love my family, my wife, my life. I love so many things. And then it hit me with the force of an emotional tsunami, the giant wave crashing across my mind. I Can Love More.

Be Patient Kind Forgiving Understanding Accountable Courageous Humble, Love More

I can love the people I’m helping more. I can love my work more. I can love my family, my wife, my children more. I never thought it was possible but now I know it is. I can love more. I can love enough to give my absolute best, my supreme effort every day. And the more I love, the more I open my heart, the more people I’ll reach, empowering them to change.

And That’s What It’s All About. Helping Others!

How does this apply to you?

We All Can Love More.

You can love those in your life more. You can love your family more, your co-workers more, your neighbors more. You can love yourself more. Love yourself and others enough to be the best version of yourself. Give people the benefit of the doubt. That means the person who cut you off in traffic too. Chances are they didn’t mean it. And even if they did, why not love them anyway?

So many people live in a blame based reality, constantly on the lookout for someone who’s at fault for the condition of their lives. They never look in the mirror. They fail to understand that regardless of what happens to them, they always have a choice what they do with it, what meaning they give it.

Blaming Others Isn’t Love.

Love others and yourself enough to accept full accountability for your choices. Love enough to make the changes you must and live the life you desire. By living the life you desire you’ll create positive ripples in our world. Love yourself and others enough to influence the world for good. Make a commitment now to be more loving, to make a difference!

I love you, I'm sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you

I’ll close with the Ho’oponopono mantra:

I love you

I’m sorry

Please forgive me

Thank you

 

Love

Roland

You Are The Master of Your Destiny!

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What is Personal Accountability and Why Does it Matter?

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Personal Accountability

What is Personal Accountability?

This seems easy enough to answer. Many people think of personal accountability as accepting responsibility for the things you do. Some tend to narrow it more by thinking personal accountability is related only to things that they or others do wrong—being accountable for one’s mistakes. But it’s more than that. Much, much more.

Personal Accountability is Freedom!

Let me explain why.

Personal accountability means accepting responsibility for your life, Your Whole Life. This might seem extreme. It might make you uncomfortable and set off alarms in your mind. After all, haven’t things been done to you by others? Hasn’t life thrown you a few curveballs, maybe even blindsided you a time or two? Haven’t things happened to you that were outside your control?

The answer to these questions is undoubtedly “Yes!”

So how are you accountable for those things? And doesn’t that mean you can’t be accountable for your whole life?

The answer is, of course you aren’t responsible for what others, life, or nature do to you. You have no control over others. You have no control over nature or the weather or random acts of chaos. And yet you are still accountable for your whole life because you have the power of choice! You choose what these events mean to you.

Your actions related to any event—or series of events—are based on the meaning you’ve assigned. If someone hurt you and you decided to never be a victim again because of that, then that’s the meaning you’ve given the event. Your actions are going to be very different from the person who was hurt and decided to never trust anyone again. If you survived a severe accident and that gave you a new appreciation for life, your actions are going to different from the person who survived a similar tragedy and now lives in fear.

Why Does Personal Accountability Matter?

Through choosing the meaning of things that happen to you, by being accountable for your life, you create your future.

Okay. That’s great. But how does personal accountability equal freedom?

I’m glad you asked!

Understanding that your choices create your future–and that the meaning you give events impacts your actions—allows you to realize that no matter what happens, you get to choose what you’re going to do with it.

You get to choose. You choose your thoughts. You choose the meaning. You choose your actions. You choose the path of your future. No one can ever take away your power of choice!

That’s Freedom!

If there’s something in your past or present that’s bothering you, try asking yourself these two questions:

“What else could this mean?”

“What good can come from this?”

Be honest with yourself when asking these and open yourself to possibilities you hadn’t considered before. You can even write down your answers. I’ve found that helps in examining all the possibilities.

These questions allow you to re-frame the thing that bothers you.

For example: I was at a movie with my wife and daughter last night. The person behind me kept accidentally bumping the back of my seat. I could have chosen to feel angry or cheated at these interruptions to the flow of the experience. I might have confronted the person behind me and asked them to stop. But I could tell it wasn’t deliberate. So instead of introducing conflict, I chose to use it as a chance to improve my patience.

The movie was wonderful. I enjoyed it much more than I would have if I’d chosen to feel angry. And I grew as a person. That’s a win-win! Learn more about how you can feel, hear, and see the benefits of Personal Accountability in your life! Visit 180-U.com today.

Always Remember:

You Are The Master of Your Destiny!

Roland

Life 180 University
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